I’m watching “The Wendy Williams” show and she’s reporting on R&B singer, Rueben Studdard, who has joined the cast of NBC’s “Biggest Loser.” Wendy has quoted Rueben as saying that he wonders why his friends never told him he needed to lose weight. While I don’t know if the statement attributed to him is accurate or not, I don’t like it. Here’s why:
1) I’ve had a number of fat friends. (See: “Fat Friends Make Friends Fat”) Fat friends often don’t want to engage in any conversations related to health and weight management. It’s like they ignore weight altogether (theirs and yours, especially if you’re smaller or trying to be). They just don’t want to talk about it. And I can’t figure out if they think not talking about it will make it go away or . . . I have no idea what they’re thinking. I do know that they don’t want to hear you say that losing weight could improve their health. Reuben’s friends probably did tell him, or tried to tell him, that he needed to lose weight. Rueben, like many of my friends probably just didn’t hear them.
2) He knew good and gosh darn well that he was fat!!! We all know when we’ve gained a few, or a hundred, pounds. We don’t need anyone to tell us. The mirror tells us. Our clothes tell us. Our bodies tell us. We just know! I’m going to ignore the personal accountability, or lack thereof, of this alleged statement. It’s not the responsibility of others to manage our health and well-being. So even if his friends didn’t tell him he needed to lose weight, he knew it in his heart of hearts and should have done something about it before ballooning to 455 lbs.
I’m glad that Rueben has decided to take control of his life, health and weight. Perhaps, despite the comment attributed to him, he’ll inspire others to take a look at themselves and make the necessary changes.